I launched my first full show this week, and it was a lot of fun! I even had my first caller, which was awesome!!
We will continue to talk about the future of aging, including topics like looks, family, romance, and finances! Things change as we age, and we need to deal with all of it. How can we age better than previous generations? And, how can we look good doing it??
My first song request was Vacation by the Go-Gos. We ended the hour-long show with that tune. Now, I would like to hear from all of you. What songs would you add to the playlist?
Join us on Thursday, April 21 for our next episode of Bifocals & Bitcoin at 9 AM CST on AMP.
Topics and questions are welcome too. Let me know how you are untaming your future when it comes to aging!
As Futurist and Coach, I am always looking for models of leadership and life that are changing outdated paradigms and thought patterns. As a former employee, business owner (and mom), I am glad COVID forced us to change the way we approached work, careers, and education. The old workplace and learning norms needed to change. Being a student or a working mom (or parent) should not have not been so hard for soo long!
We no longer need to separate our lives in to distinct categories. In fact, we never could-because we are human. We brought our lives, personal challenges, and feelings to work. We just had to hide them for decades! Enter Intentional Congruence, which I define as the “purposeful alignment between each area of your life to create synergy and success.” I believe Intentional Congruence is a path to more prosperous futures for many families.
Jessica Mead is leading the way for businesses and families. She has created a model of prosperity for her family that incorporates the “Both-And” Futurist Mindset as well as an entrepreneurial approach to life. As the researcher who discovered that personal fulfillment was the key to motivation for entrepreneurial individuals, I totally appreciate- and will use- elements of her work!
A few of my favorite takeaways:
Find and create opportunities and let go of what is no longer working
We are as afraid of success as we are of failure
The educational institutions of old need to evolve
Intentional Congruence is a way to create synergy and success that blends our personal and professional lives
Trust yourself & let go of regret
Let go of money as the outcome; Money will find you as you grow and evolve
Go Wild & Enjoy Listening & Learning to this Episode of Glambition Radio!
You are creating your future with what you are thinking and feeling right at this very moment.
Research shows that the more positive and grateful we are in the present, the better our life outcomes will be-in every way! A positive present results in better relationships, more romance, more money and more fulfilling careers.
So, what are you going to do to enjoy today-this gift of the present that you have in front of you right now?
Well, here we are – still getting creative on how to enjoy holidays in strange and challenging times. Our family is trying to get a little more creative this year when it comes to Valentine’s Day fun. Clients continue to tell me how their teams and employees are struggling with mental health. Maintaining a positive mental attitude is so important but can also very difficult right now. One of the best prescriptions for improved mental health is FUN!
My husband and I have been married for almost 22 years, and we officially have one teen and one pre-teen. This makes for an interesting blend of ages and interests during the holidays! It also creates different definitions of fun. We have to create experiences that we all enjoy, which can be tricky. Our family agreed to try the following:
1. Throw a Chocolate Party
Many moons ago, my husband and I had dinner at a local winery for Valentine’s Day-it was marvelous!! We are making an attempt to replicate this in a much easier way this year. I am not much of a chef; however, we are going to attempt to include chocolate in every dish! This is the perfect weekend to break out my fondue pot and dip lots of different items into some melted chocolate. And, we are going to make chocolate spaghetti Yes, it is a thing – and, it is delicious – I hope!
2. Create and Serve a Signature Beverage
I love to create new cocktails using whatever we have around this house. Good news- I still have some frozen cranberry slush from Christmas! We were supposed to go to my Dad’s so I made over a gallon of the stuff; then, we ended up staying home due to a COVID exposure. It’s time to turn lemons (or cranberries in this case) into lemonade! There is both an an adult and kid-friendly version so everyone can enjoy!
3. Binge Watch Family Videos and Photos
We have 1,000s of videos and pictures that are stuck in the cloud, on disks and in phones. It is well below freezing outside, so instead of watching Netflix – we are going to watch our family history and memories instead!
4. Blend Pictionary with Charades
My parents always believed that a family who plays together, stays together. We like to take board games next level in our house, so we get out a giant white board with Pictionary cards and draw while also using a dose of charades for clues when the drawings just aren’t cutting it.
5. Add to the Futures Capsule
I can feel us all getting a little tired of the COVID and the cold, so we are going to get into gratitude and show thanks for the wonders of life while also adding to our Futures Capsule. Instead of adding items and memories that represent the past, we create writings and ideas of what we want in the future. These include drawings, lists, goals, pictures, etc. The Futures Capsule allows us to dream while also creating family conversations focused on what we would like to do, explore, be and achieve. It’s an effective way of communicating with young adults who usually answer their parents with “stuff” or “things” when asked about their day.
Let us know about the fun ideas you have for Valentine’s Day!
Now may be the perfect time to either establish or revisit your core values.
In a time of drastic change, it can be helpful to either establish or revisit and renew your core values. Why? Core values are what we stand for and judge to be right. They serve as the guiding principles that influence our beliefs, behaviors, attitudes and cultural norms.
The COVID pandemic is a Wild Card that has changed many of our habits, beliefs and behaviors. I have written and talked about Wild Cards for years in my work as a Futurist; however, I want to remind readers about my definition of Wild Card.
Wild Card: Unpredictable, unforeseen happenings that impact our present and future.
Wild Cards can and do happen. COVID is an example of a global sized Wild Card with very long-term, history making and future-changing consequences. Wild Cards can also happen on a smaller scale. We might lose a job or have an unexpected health emergency. We might inherit a large sum of money or land a big client. We may find ourselves needing to revamp our business while practically homeschooling our children (sound familiar?) We don’t know exactly when Wild Cards will occur or how they will impact the world, our businesses and our lives. As leaders of our lives, families and businesses and communities, we need to deal with Wild Cards and the changes that come with them now and into the future.
Wild Cards are a part of business and life. As leaders, we have to learn to deal with what comes our way.
Establishing or renewing your core values can be a valuable first step in transforming your business and life.
One of the clients I have been working with relies heavily on customers physically visiting their property. It is clearly a time for them to pivot, and they wanted a new strategic plan that helped them rethink what is possible in a time of long-term business uncertainty. After the initial in-take and assessment, I recommended that they establish their core values. We start at two levels 1) Each individual employee should establish their core values, and 2) The company also creates core values for the organization.
I have also been “assigning” a core values exercise to my individual coaching clients. There are a number of core values lists out there you can use to establish your core values; however, I prefer that businesses and leaders create their own core values. It is really important to get excited about and connect with your core values. You also need to own them. So, have a little fun with this as a person, family, team or business and create something that energizes and excites you!
The coaching tool I am giving to you all as a download in this blog post is typically used for teams or small businesses. However, you can use the same steps as an individual, family or group of leaders.
5 Simple Steps to Creating Your Core Values
Core Values Uncensored: Forget the Norm & Bravely Brainstorm
Create a “Top 5” List
Work Together to Make the Core Values Better
Reflect, Revise & Test to Find the Best
Choose How to Use Your Core Values
Download the FREE “How to Create Core Values” Coaching Exercise Below!
Core values are the beliefs and principles that help guide your present while laying the foundation for your future.Consumers are increasingly loyal to businesses they can identify with, relate to and believe in because they want a sense of purpose and connection when buying goods and services.
On an individual level, core values represent what we believe, how we behave and who we are. Our values influence everything ranging from how we show up at work to who we choose as friends.
Think of core values like this: An apple has five chambers at its core. Each chamber holds a seed that possess important elements for the regeneration of future apple crops. Seeds hold the keys to a healthy and thriving future. Core values are similar to seeds in that they can help individuals and businesses regenerate themselves to grow the future they desire.
In both business and life, core values should serve as foundational guidelines we use to make decisions, guide behaviors and influence strategic directions. Core values establish both the present and the future when it comes to business, leadership and life.
Go Wild & Have Fun Creating Your Core Values!
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Many of the experienced coaches I know are getting this question from their clients. I have been asked this question in several sessions over the past few weeks. Most of my coaching clients are high-achieving individuals who are finding themselves in situations where they are now working from home while also helping their kids learn and taking care of their parents at a distance.
Yes, we are in changing (and challenging) times. Balancing all the new with the uncertainty of what is happening is difficult for most of us; however, there are things we can do to improve our mindset while also enjoying what this strange present has to offer.
I created a new coaching tool, My WINs for Today, for clients who have needed a little help finding their new grooves. One of the daily challenges I set for them is to have some fun every single day. Yes, this may sound strange to many. However, we know that fun helps strengthen us physically, mentally and spiritually.
Fun: Doing anything that creates joy in your life.
The WINs for Today coaching tool is designed to provide a simple, yet useful, roadmap to help people create and celebrate 3 intentional WINs (Wildly, Inspired, Natural Actions) each day that support their lives now and into the future. For overachievers, times like this can be very difficult. Why? They are never quite satisfied about how much they accomplish. Times like these can be super-stressful because productivity is challenged by all of the other items they have added to their plates. I know from my own experience that working with kids who are learning at home is something that takes a few new braincells and mindfulness techniques to balance.
Intentions are whatever we truly want to make happen. What we intend will happen. Actions support honest intentions; therefore, all true intent is realized. Intentions become the outcome.
Dr. Connie in SMARTER Intentions & Authentic Goals (2014)
There is only so much we can do in a day, so keep it simple until you feel like you are in a good place to do more. Create some momentum, and learn from each day. Try not to judge yourself too harshly, and get some help if you need it!
You can download the My WINs for Today Coaching tool for FREE by clicking on the following link:
I am really curious about how other people celebrate Valentine’s Day. My husband and I have now been married for 20.5 years, and we are always looking for new ideas. We usually have a fun celebration at home with the kids because they love celebrating holidays with us.
We make some heart-shaped foods and enjoy a nice meal together. Then, we exchange a few small gifts – even the dogs get some extra treats! However, it is time to mix it up a bit! So, I am looking for ideas!!
Happiness can be a grand challenge for all of us, especially in an culture where ageism is very real.
According to Dictionary.com ageism is a noun meaning:
discrimination against persons of a certain age group.
a tendency to regard older persons as debilitated, unworthy of attention, or unsuitable for employment.
I spoke about hope and happiness at the 2015 Rural Futures Conference, and I used Project Have Hope as a reference to illustrate my point. In Uganda, women of all ages are making beautiful pieces of jewelry out of paper. I found the necklace I am wearing in the photo when visiting the National Civil Rights Museum in Memphis, TN. These fantastic women are putting their entrepreneurial skills to work! Not only are there actions empowering women in the present, they are fostering success for future generations. They are empowering themselves and their families. The women in Uganda are leaders.
Project Have Hope was started by another female leader, Karen Sparacio, who is an entrepreneurial photojournalist. Karen decided to give back by taking action. You can find out more about Karen and her work by visiting photosbykisp.com.
Do I think agesim is real? Yes. Do I think we can do something about it? Absolutely! Did I pause before posting the page out of the conference proceedings? Yes. Why? Because it is real, and I can visibly see that I am getting older. It’s not an easy thing, especially in a culture that values youth and devalues age. But, I also know that I need to stay positive, practice gratitude and keep moving! I have learned a lot through the years, including the fact that it takes a village to do so many things, ranging from raising children to growing businesses and communities. At the Rural Futures Institute, we are committed to changing the rural conversation to one of challenge to one of opportunity. We also want to connect people and communities to opportunities! This conversation must include women of all ages, including those that are older than 40.
Happiness ignites innovation. Check out the Project Have Hope video below and then think about the challenges you typically hear about aging. Look the extraordinary attitudes the women in the Acholi Quarter of Uganda have and how much action they are taking because they have hope.
We just celebrated the 4th of July in the United States, which serves as a reminder that we are free to choose our attitudes and actions. You are free to decide how you live your life at any age and any stage. So, let me know. What inspired, hopeful actions are you taking?