To Change Yourself, Change Your World (and Your Brain)

Science can help people stick to their goals.  I posted a SMARTER Intentions coaching guide on Ask Dr. Connie on December 31, 2015 to help people set their true intentions for 2016.  If you are already struggling a bit, brain science offers a little help!

Kira Newman, from the University of Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, suggests changing your environment.  Newman suggests some simple tips, and I added a few more of my own.  The real goal here is to create new habits and behaviors that will ultimately influence your subconscious mind.

A few key takeaways from the article:

Map your goals and support your transformational journey by using the following techniques:

  1.  Add goals and reminders to your calendar and keep them posted where you can see them.  Newman notes that 10% of people forget their resolutions, so consistently keep them in front of you!
  2. Steer clear of temptation.  Notice obstacles and roadblocks that get in your way and move them!
  3. Surround yourself with inspiration (and I would add others who have the same mindset).  Create living and working spaces (I also have to add social networks to this list)  that fuel your soul and your goals.  Use cues that you see and hear throughout the day.  Newman suggests finding a piece of jewelry that holds meaning to you.  I have used this idea for years!  I wear a ring with a large, light blue stone that reminds me to play big and follow my dreams each and every day.

In addition to surrounding yourself with great people, or your social networks, I have to add another coaching tip:  Celebrate Your Success!  Many of us women over 40 are extremely busy and rarely take the time to recognize and celebrate our progress.  Get creative and do something for you!  Celebrating your success will keep you motivated and energized while helping you stay connected to your purpose.

Get the details from Kira Newman, editor and web producer at the Greater Good Science Center online: To Change Yourself, Change Your World

If you missed the SMARTER Intentions Coaching Guide on December 31, 2015, you can download it here:  

AskDrConnie.com 2016 SMARTER Intentions Coaching Guide 12.31.15

Happy New Year

New Year and [Re]New You: A Women’s Retreat

Invest in you this holiday season!  A few of my fellow, female business owners in Nebraska City invited me to join them January 15-17, 2016 to co-host New Year and [Re]New You:  A Women’s Retreat.  

I am now extending this invitation to all of you!  If you are ready for an amazing 2016, join us for a weekend filled with purpose, passion and fun!  I will be there as both a participant and a coach.  See the flyer below and visit www.bbwhisperingpines.com for more information.

This is a great opportunity to Be You & Do Something Cool!  We have already filled several registrations; however, there are a few openings left.  Call Whispering Pines (402-873-5850) to reserve your room and commit to your future!

Go Wild and [Re]New You!

-Dr. Connie

 

New Year and ReNew You Retreat-Flyer

Women’s Entrepreneurship Day

 

It has been a full week!  One of the big events:  Women’s Entrepreneurship Day.

The Tweet by Melissa Stewart connected me to the story behind Women’s Entrepreneurship Day.  Wendy Diamond, Women’s Entrepreneurship Day Founder and CEO, started Women’s Entrepreneurship Day with great passion and purpose. She is giving women a global voice.  To learn more, read the article published in Fortune about Wendy Diamond:

 

Remember to support women owned businesses when holiday shopping.  Let’s keep the movement going!

Let our team at AskDrConnie know what women-owned businesses you are supporting this holiday season and throughout the year in the comment area below.

Go Wild with Women’s Entrepreneurship!

-Dr. Connie

Awesome Mom Moments!

Life through the eyes of a six-year-old is marvelous!
Life through the eyes of a six-year-old is marvelous!

My son is quite a character.  Even daily challenges like sitting in traffic can become  fun-filled “Awesome Mom Moments” when they are viewed through the eyes of children!

“Awesome Mom Moments” energize me to take inspired action!  Who knew that “turkey shopping” could help me redefine my business?  The simplicity of his answer struck a chord in me.  I needed to simplify my life.

I have purposely stepped away from blogging for a while.  On May 1, 2015 I began a new career journey.  I joined the Rural Futures Institute at the University of Nebraska as their Associate Director.  It is a fantastic role with an organization focused on an exciting vision:  The Rural Futures Institute will be an internationally recognized leader for increasing community capacity as well as the confidence of rural people to address their challenges and opportunities, resulting in resilient and sustainable rural futures.  The new role meant that it was time for me to update my website, blog and business purpose.

This transition has been a journey for me, my family and my business.  It is an honor to be both a University administrator and an entrepreneur.  My business and blog are also going to evolve.  The key area I am personally committed to is empowering women and girls around the world.  I am specifically connecting with women over the age of 40 to do this.  Why?  Women over 40 are powerful, dynamic, game-changing leaders who are making the world a better place through family and the workplace.  However, their contributions go unrecognized too often.  I want to change the narrative so young women and girls see an amazing version of their future selves and so boys and men better respect and appreciate all that women bring to the table of life.

The joyful simplicity and honesty of my son’s “turkey shopping” comment was a moment of pure joy.  While life sometimes seems overwhelming and stressful, it should be fun, simple, beautiful and joyful.

I am asking you to help me begin a new conversation about women over 40.  What brings you joy?  What are your “Awesome Mom Moments?”  What topics and resources would add value to your life?  Please leave your joyful experiences, Awesome Mom Moments and ideas in the comments section below!

Go Wild with Your Turkey Shopping and Awesome Mom Moments!

-Dr. Connie

Growing Trends: The Rise of Good Bacteria and the Demise of Shampoo?

As creative entrepreneurs and innovators continue to embrace the “natural ingredients and fewer chemicals” trend, we may be soon be talking about using shampoo “way back when”….

 

I just love it when people embrace, “Be You & Do Something Cool!”

Go Wild and Innovate with Purpose, Passion & Fun!

-Dr. Connie

Go Wild with Confidence Hits #136,936 on Amazon!

Celebrating a publishing milestone with my family today!  It always feels good when you take a step in the direction of your dreams.  Best-seller status here I come!

 

Easter is Awesome!

My family is winding down our fantastic Easter weekend. We found lots of eggs, and had fun spending time outside in the sun. The lovely rain made everything seem clean again, which is such a great reminder of the true purpose of Easter.

My daughter’s favorite part of Easter was the candy! Jim’s favorite moment was taking a nature walk, and my son’s favorite moment was finding an Easter Egg in his room. My favorite part was remembering that all is forgiven because of a special sacrifice that was made many years ago. Easter is a great time to reflect on the past but also let go to make room for a new and even brighter future.

Thank you Lord for all our blessings and for a fresh start!

Go Wild with Easter!
-Dr. Connie

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Megatrend 3: Decentralized Global Marketplace

Distance learning is in the age of the “Empowered Consumer-Learner” who has a buffet of educational choices.   The empowered consumer-learner decides what educational experiences and knowledge they need, when they need it and how they want to experience it.  The wide-array of non-credit and for credit choices makes for a very competitive marketplace but also a field of new opportunities.

Venture capitalists continue to invest in distance education because of the return on investment potential.  Big Data is being used to develop marketing campaigns, study human behaviors and determine patterns.  It is also being used to examine various areas of teaching and learning.  Data can help create bite-sized, customized courses and programs that are both personalized and interactive (Koller, 2012). Technology enables the delivery of information and education anytime, anywhere and from anyone in a way that makes sense to the learner while adding value to their lives.

It’s no longer necessary for people to enroll in college, formal classes or workshops to learn.  They are learning what they want to know from their networks and resources they find on the Web, through Apps or in iTunes.  People will increasingly be able to create and print their ideas from wherever they choose with 3D printing.  Technology, combined with the continued growth of self-expression and meaning, will continue to change education at a rapid pace.

Value is becoming less about college credit and more about meaningful outcomes and self-expression through enhanced skills and evolving abilities.  The world is fast-becoming an “Add to Cart” society for anything and everything, including educational experiences.  Individuals are creating local, national and global communities of meaning and change that are self-selected and self-formed.  Many of these same individuals are transforming distance learning in new and innovative ways.  Technology, combined with the need for meaning, self-expression and self-actualization, has created an increasingly decentralized marketplace.

People are choosing how to meet virtually, when, where and whether-or-not to meet face-to-face and connecting over common causes.  Education, along with so many other areas of life, is becoming increasingly decentralized.  Savvy consumers seek and create the value they crave to transform their lives.   They are choosing whether or not they want a badge, certificate, credit hour or degree, and their demands are shaping the marketplace and future trends.  The Empowered Consumer-Learner wants a unique experience that adds value to their life.  Future-focused leaders who ask and answer not, “What is the lifetime value of a customer?” but rather, “What value can we add to a lifetime?” will be in a better position to compete in the increasingly decentralized marketplace.

Innovation Retreat: New Ideas and New Dollars on April 29!
As educators, what is the value we can add to a lifetime?

Starting the New Year with True Intentions!

 

It’s the perfect day for writing.  The snow is falling and the new year is full of positive energy and gratitude!

If you are contemplating your resolutions or goals for 2014, my updated SMARTER Intentions and Authentic Goals Coaching Guide may be of use.  It is designed to help get you started or to help you refine what you may have already established.

Intentions influence our actions and behaviors.  If intentions are established with awareness, truth, and meaning, they help us experience a life filled with passion and personal fulfillment. Lack of understanding around our true intentions often causes frustration and confusion, which is one reason people oftentimes do not achieve their goals.  Many goals are written; however, they are not established with honest intent.  It’s time to get brutally honest about your true intentions so you can achieve authentic goals.

Intentions have the power to strengthen your Inner Leader and help you move forward in a meaningful way as long as they represent what you truly want to accomplish and experience.  Honest intentions, based on personal fulfillment and purpose, can also keep you motivated and focused while measuring progress and celebrating success.

What we truly intend will happen, so I use this coaching guide to encourage my clients to create SMARTER Intention Statements that support their personal vision.  So, what exactly are SMARTER Intentions?  They are statements designed to help you achieve your vision while holding your accountable and having some fun along the way because they are Super Cool, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time Bound, Evolved, and Rewarded.

The SMARTER Intentions and Authentic Goals coaching guide can easily be downloaded via the web by going to the University of Nebraska Extension Kimmel Education and Research Center Digital Commons site.  Simply click on: SMARTER Intentions and Authentic Goals.

Go Wild with your SMARTER Intentions and have a VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR!

-Dr. Connie

 Happy New Year

Final Thoughts on Confidence (for now :)

There are many ways to develop your confidence.  Ultimately, you have to decide what is right for you.  Journaling, meditation, the use of personal mantras and affirmations, goal setting, visualization, art, nature, healthy eating, physical activity and hiring coaches can all be great tools to help you move forward. Whatever you decide, just make sure the strategies and structures you put in place work for you and are focused on what you truly want to accomplish and experience. For example, many people set false goals they never achieve because they left their heart and personal desire out of the process.
Setting and pursuing false goals leads to lack of interest and motivation, which leads to goal abandonment and ultimately a feeling of failure and self-doubt.   Feelings of failure and self-doubt can seriously erode self-confidence.  Goals should be set for you as an individual and based on personal fulfillment, not simply what you think you should do based on the thoughts and influences of others or society. Establish goals, strategies and structures that are holistic and recognize the importance and power of the mind-body-spirit connection. 
After Mom’s sudden death, I had many conversations with Dad about living life.  He told me he had no regrets. My parents celebrated forty-five years of marriage a month before Mom’s passing, and Dad said they did everything they wanted to do together. I will never know Mom’s true thoughts on this subject; I just hope she felt the same way. Life-changing events have a way of putting life into perspective. I now use “live life with no regrets” as a personal mantra that I repeat to myself daily. My philosophy about life has become this: Life should be a journey filled with wonderful experiences, and we must define success for ourselves. Many of us tend to focus too much on accumulating titles and stuff rather than experiences. Our individual journeys should be what we want to experience and enjoy. Life should not be a daily grind.  Life should not be a to-do list.
Your time on this planet is short, so enjoy it!  Be confident and lead yourself on this journey called life. Live a fulfilling life with purpose and passion.  Share your true talents with the world, have fun, and live your best life every single day!
Go Wild!
—Dr. Connie