How do I Increase My Confidence?

How do I increase my confidence?

This is the #1 question I get from ALL of my coaching clients, so if you struggle with your confidence-you are not alone!

Confidence is a continual process, and it is something high-level leaders, CEOs, managers, and new employees all struggle with throughout their careers and lives.

It is an issue I work with clients on daily. I also struggled with my own confidence as a leader and executive. It is an important topic, so confidence was the topic of my first book, Go Wild with Confidence! Strengthen your Inner Leaders and live your best life with purpose, passion, and fun!

I made my 2nd TikTok ūüôā to talk a little bit about confidence and posted it below. I hope you find it helpful!

Do you have questions that you would like answered? If so, add them below and I will answer them in future videos!

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How do you set goals?

A client asked me how to set goals for 2021 – this was a great question, and we enjoyed exploring it during our coaching session. I suggest to clients that they begin by letting their creative juices flow through the process of drawing their vision.

We create our future in the present moment, so our thoughts, actions, and activities benefit by having a guide.  The best way to establish this guide?  Create a Visual Vision.

Start by Drawing Your Vision

Grab yourself a big piece of paper¬† ‚ÄĒ I like to use poster board or flip charts ‚ÄĒ and some markers, crayons, oil pastels, paints or whatever medium you prefer and begin to let your imagination wander.¬† This should be an enjoyable process, so I highly recommend savoring a hot cup of tea or favorite beverage of any kind while creating your vision of the future.¬† When you have everything you need, including quiet, focused time, begin drawing your vision for the future.¬†¬†

Vision 2021

Most of my clients are challenged by seeing beyond 2021, so start there! What is your vision for this year?

Draw a picture of your vision Рwho do you want to be this year?  Where do you want to be at the beginning of 2022?  And, what do you want to have experienced and accomplished along the way? 

Let go and have some fun with this process!  Refine it until it feels good to you and truly represents your vision for 2021. Keep your visual vision in front of you and use it to guide 2021.  I also suggest looking at it daily Рput it somewhere you are going to see it several times per day without having to manually get it out of a book or drawer. These repetitive visuals will help guide your subconscious mind.

Coaching Tip: You can use whatever timeframe that works for you. One year goes by quickly, and we want to give ourselves enough time to accomplish or reach our vision. So stretch yourself but also ground your vision by thinking what is real for you by 2022.


I also suggest creating a unique hashtag or bumper sticker phrase to anchor your mind to the vision every time you set a goal or need to make a decision.  A great vision guides intentional and authentic goal setting and decision making by anchoring your mind, serving as a guide, simplifying the processes and becoming your compass for 2021!  Try it out and let me know how it goes!!

Coaching Tip:  You can use this process as an individual, with your family, with your friends and with teams at work.  Enjoy!

-Dr. Connie

Fun is Valuable: So Just Say “Yes!”

Now, there is even more proof that fun is valuable! ¬†Media titan, Shonda Rhimes, recently gave a compelling TED Talk, “My Year of Saying Yes.” ¬†She discusses the value of saying yes, but also provides valuable insights on why we should play and have fun-especially with our children.

Ms. Rhimes is a leader and role model for women in the modern age. ¬†She is bold enough to call herself a titan (AWESOME!) but also cool enough to admit that she enjoys working and playing with her kids. ¬†Shonda¬†is a single mom who knows the importance of building a leading a team to make this all work. ¬†She gets help from others (i.e.: ¬†her nanny) and admits that even she needs to recharge her batteries with fun to get her “hum” back so she can continue to create and grow. ¬†Titan Rhimes is using her talents and power to build not only her personal brand but an entertainment dynasty that is empowering women in an number of different ways.

Let the team know what you learned from her TED2016 talk in the comment section below.

Go Wild with Saying “Yes” and Enjoy the Video!

-Dr. Connie

SMARTER Intentions and Authentic Goals: A Coaching Guide from

All true intent is realized. ¬†This simple yet profound truth is usually overlooked when people set goals. ¬†If you really don’t intend to lose 15 pounds (you just want to lose weight without really trying), then don’t set a goal around weight loss. ¬†New Year’s resolutions are often short-lived because they are not true intentions. ¬†I am a believer in setting intentions, so I developed a coaching tool to help people set SMARTER Intentions rather than soulless goals.

What we truly intend will happen. Actions support honest intentions; therefore, all true intent is realized. Intentions become our outcomes. Intentions influence our actions and behaviors. If intentions are established with awareness, truth, and meaning, they help us experience a life filled with passion and personal fulfillment. Lack of understanding around our true intentions often causes frustration and confusion, which is one reason people oftentimes do not achieve their goals. Many goals are written; however, they are not established with honest intent. It’s time to get brutally honest about your true intentions so you can achieve authentic goals.

Intentions have the power to strengthen your Inner Leader and help you move forward in a meaningful way as long as they represent what you truly want to accomplish and experience. Honest intentions, based on personal fulfillment and purpose, can also keep you motivated and focused while measuring progress and celebrating success.

What we truly intend will happen, so I encourage my coaching clients to create SMARTER Intention Statements that support their personal vision. So, what exactly are SMARTER Intentions? They are statements designed to help you achieve your vision while holding your accountable and having some fun along the way because they are Super Cool, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time Bound, Evolved, and Rewarded.  If you are looking to start the new year with authenticity, download my free SMARTER Intentions Coaching Guide to set your true resolutions for 2016: 2016 SMARTER Intentions Coaching Guide 12.31.15

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Go Wild with Your True Intentions and Have a Happy New Year!!

-Dr. Connie

InnovateHER: 2015 Innovating for Women Business Challenge in Lincoln, NE March 26

This is AWESOME!!

I received the press release for the InnovateHER:  2015 Innovating for Women Business Challenge in Lincoln, NE on March 26 and had to share it with all of you.  

Go Wild with Your Creativity and Ideas, Support Women and Go For It!

Be You & Do Something Cool!

-Dr. Connie


OMAHA–The U.S. Small Business Administration‚Äôs Nebraska District Office invites entrepreneurs with an idea or product to improve the lives of women and families to compete in Lincoln at the InnovateHER: 2015 Innovating for Women Business Challenge.

The challenge is scheduled for March 26 starting at 11 a.m. at the Southeast Community College Entrepreneurship Center, 285 South 68th Street, Suite 214, Lincoln.

During the competition in Lincoln, contestants will offer a business plan pitch explaining their product or idea. The winner will be eligible to contend for one of the final ten national slots and a chance to win a cash prize in Washington, D.C. during National Small Business Week May 4-8.

The SBA wants to unleash the entrepreneurial spirit of America’s women and men by providing needed resources and technical assistance to business owners and innovators.

InnovateHER: 2015 Innovating for Women Business Challenge is an engaging women business challenge in which the SBA will facilitate unearthing and empowering entrepreneurs.

The competition in Lincoln is open to entrepreneurs throughout Nebraska, both women and men, who are developing products or services that have a measurable positive impact on the lives of women and families, has the potential for commercialization, and fills a need in the marketplace. As demands on women and families grow in our society, the need for products, services, and technology addressing those needs increases.

For more information and for a complete list of rules and a formal application, please call Elizabeth Yearwood, Economic Development Specialist at the SBA, at (402) 221-7200 or email Applications must be completed and submitted no later than 4 p.m. March 16 to be eligible for the challenge in Lincoln March 26.

For more information regarding SBA, please visit our website at:


Flex Your Inner Leader: Strike a Power Pose Like Wonder Woman and Enjoy!

We have all heard about the importance of body language, but have you ever used a Power Pose to boost your self-concept?  I recently used this amazing TED Talk, by Social Psychologist Amy Cuddy, with a group of hospital leaders.  Dr. Cuddy talks about the power of body language as it relates to interacting with others but also as it influences your internal beliefs and behaviors:

“Our nonverbals govern how we think and feel about ourselves.”

Amy explains the science of nonverbals (body language) but also offers practical solutions you can use immediately to boost your self-concept and leadership presence.  Get ready to flex your Inner Leader.   Strike a pose like Wonder Woman and enjoy the instant change to your body and mind.

Go Wild with Power Posing!

-Dr. Connie


PS:  Let me know how Power Posing works for you!. Talk about your experiences below!!

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What is Your Deer in the Lawn?

Growing up, my dad played the same April Fool joke on us kids every year,¬†“Look kids, there is a deer in the lawn!”¬† ¬†Every year, the six of us fell for it. ¬†We actually lived along a highway, so the likelihood of us spotting a deer in the lawn was pretty small.

My husband was gone on April 1, but we both wanted to make sure have some fun with our kids by using the deer in the lawn joke. I was really excited about having some fun with the kids.  I even added the prank to my calendar so I would not forget to do it!

I had the iPad ready and filmed the whole thing so I could send the kids’ reaction to Jim. ¬†Unfortunately, the kids did not think my deer in the lawn joke was funny. ¬†My son actually started to cry. ¬†He really wanted to see the deer!

I felt awful, and it took me awhile to cheer them up before leaving for school. ¬†After school and work, we called my husband and my dad. ¬†The idea of April Fools’ Day had sunk it a little bit more by the time the kids helped me make the calls. ¬†They actually told both my husband and my dad that they saw a deer in the lawn that morning and then said, “April Fools!”¬† (My son actually said what sounded more like, “April Fourth!”¬†¬†I am pretty sure it is a combination between April Fools and July Fourth –¬†yes, he is a creative genius!)¬†

Needless to say, I felt a lot better about my April Fools’ Day fun gone bad. ¬†The old Deer in the Lawn joke made a comeback and everyone had a good laugh that day.

The morale of the story: ¬†Even when things (ideas, experiences, changes, legendary April Fools’ jokes, etc.) feel¬†challenging in the beginning, they can and usually improve with a little time, effort and clarity. ¬†Sometimes it takes a few tears, moments of frustration and great communication to create understanding and breakthrough experiences. ¬†Of course, a little fun and laughter help too! ¬†Put on your leadership hat, get creative, have some fun and do whatever you can to keep your Deer in the Lawn moving forward with confidence and clarity.

Go Wild with Your Deer in the Lawn!

-Dr. Connie


What is Your Deer in the Lawn?
What is Your Deer in the Lawn?

Fred: The Key Indicator of “Gone-to-Muchness”

Fred: The key indicator of “Gone-to-Muchness”

I think Fred is trying to tell me something!

Granted, Fred usually gets pretty upset when I get the suitcase out and start packing.  But, this was the first time he actually sat in it!  Animals have great instincts, and he is sharing an important message with me.

It has been a busy couple of months and it is now time to do some “Spring Cleaning” of life, which includes my home, office and vehicle! ¬†I need to clean out the old so I make room to invite in the new. ¬†An all around freshening up of my Inner Leader is in order!

How do you go about “Spring Cleaning” your life and work? ¬†How do you Spring Clean your Inner Leader to make room for innovation in family, work, business and life?

Go Wild with Spring Cleaning Life!

-Dr. Connie