SMARTER Intentions and Authentic Goals: A Coaching Guide from AskDrConnie.com

All true intent is realized.  This simple yet profound truth is usually overlooked when people set goals.  If you really don’t intend to lose 15 pounds (you just want to lose weight without really trying), then don’t set a goal around weight loss.  New Year’s resolutions are often short-lived because they are not true intentions.  I am a believer in setting intentions, so I developed a coaching tool to help people set SMARTER Intentions rather than soulless goals.

What we truly intend will happen. Actions support honest intentions; therefore, all true intent is realized. Intentions become our outcomes. Intentions influence our actions and behaviors. If intentions are established with awareness, truth, and meaning, they help us experience a life filled with passion and personal fulfillment. Lack of understanding around our true intentions often causes frustration and confusion, which is one reason people oftentimes do not achieve their goals. Many goals are written; however, they are not established with honest intent. It’s time to get brutally honest about your true intentions so you can achieve authentic goals.

Intentions have the power to strengthen your Inner Leader and help you move forward in a meaningful way as long as they represent what you truly want to accomplish and experience. Honest intentions, based on personal fulfillment and purpose, can also keep you motivated and focused while measuring progress and celebrating success.

What we truly intend will happen, so I encourage my coaching clients to create SMARTER Intention Statements that support their personal vision. So, what exactly are SMARTER Intentions? They are statements designed to help you achieve your vision while holding your accountable and having some fun along the way because they are Super Cool, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time Bound, Evolved, and Rewarded.  If you are looking to start the new year with authenticity, download my free SMARTER Intentions Coaching Guide to set your true resolutions for 2016:

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Looking to kick-start 2016 with a supportive network of women?  Join me and a group of amazing female leaders at Whispering Pines Bed and Breakfast for New You and [Re]New You:  A Women’s Retreat.  This amazing immersion experience is designed to help women who are looking to reinvent themselves in 2016.  We will work together to uncover your true intentions and chart a course for an amazing 2016 and beyond.  The weekend will be full of great activities ranging from painting and yoga to cooking classes, visioning and coaching.  Join us for a fabulous weekend focused on the future of you!  Contact Whispering Pines Bed and Breakfast to register today!  Click on the image below to learn more and register for the retreat.  Whispering Pines Bed and Breakfast

Go Wild with Your True Intentions and Have a Happy New Year!!

-Dr. Connie

Fred: The Key Indicator of “Gone-to-Muchness”

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Fred: The key indicator of “Gone-to-Muchness”

I think Fred is trying to tell me something!

Granted, Fred usually gets pretty upset when I get the suitcase out and start packing.  But, this was the first time he actually sat in it!  Animals have great instincts, and he is sharing an important message with me.

It has been a busy couple of months and it is now time to do some “Spring Cleaning” of life, which includes my home, office and vehicle!  I need to clean out the old so I make room to invite in the new.  An all around freshening up of my Inner Leader is in order!

How do you go about “Spring Cleaning” your life and work?  How do you Spring Clean your Inner Leader to make room for innovation in family, work, business and life?

Go Wild with Spring Cleaning Life!

-Dr. Connie

 

I Need Your Help before Friday!!

I need your fresh insights about confidence before Friday? Why??

Clint Bellows, a man I truly admire, invited me to be a guest on the Tom Becka show this Friday at 3:30 PM. Clint is hosting the show, and I am starting to get my thoughts on confidence, leadership and coaching together. Your ideas, perspectives and experiences will make this radio experience on the Mighty 1290 a much richer experience for listeners.

Here’s a question to get the conversation started:
What do you do to strengthen your confidence and the confidence of others?

I would love to hear from you!

Go Wild with Confidence!!
-Dr. Connie

Jagger’s fun and amazing drawing represents my feelings about being on the show (I am so proud of my little artist):

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Coaching Power Tool: Success vs. Failure

My latest Coaching Power Tool:  Success vs Failure is ready for use by coaches or people interested in self-coaching!  It can be downloaded as a pdf via the University’s Kimmel Education and Research Center’s Digital Commons site (http://digitalcommons.unl.edu/kimmelfacpub/15/).  To give you a little glimpse of this power tool, I have included a snippet below:

Thirty spokes converge upon a single hub;
It is on the hole in the center that the use of the cart hinges.
We make a vessel from a lump of clay;
It is the empty space within the vessel that makes it useful.
We make doors and windows for a room;
But it is these empty spaces that make the room livable.
Thus, while the tangible has advantages,
It is the intangible that makes it useful.
Lao Tzu
Tao Teh Ching (p. 23)
Part of personal leadership and innovation is self-discovery, which requires introspection and the ability to see the unseen.  As the reading from Lao Tzu’s Tao Teh Ching illustrates, sometimes it is necessary to consider a different perspective.  We have to shift our thinking to see the importance of all parts of a wheel, cart, vessel or a room.  Sometimes, it is the unobvious that may be the most important.  It is important for us to challenge our thinking and traditional thought to redefine success, failure and our ability to take risks.
For example, many of us may marvel at the colors of a beautiful vase while it is the empty space on the inside that provides functionality.  We must further consider that the outside and inside are both required give the vase value and purpose.  Sometimes it is what we do not immediately see or experience that gives life value and purpose.  We must search for purpose and meaning in order to begin to understand how we perceive success and failure.  Napoleon Hill’s research (p. 31), demonstrates the relationship between accomplishment and purpose:
“Purpose is the touchstone of any accomplishment, large or small.  A strong man can be defeated by a child who has a purpose.  Shift your habits of thinking about the significance of your task and you can often accomplish the seemingly impossible.”
Napoleon Hill,
Think & Grow Rich Action Pack(p. 31)
Increasing our awareness of success and failure requires us to explore our perception of both.  One of the first steps in the process of personal innovation is discovering and defining success and failure from a holistic perspective on your own terms.