It is Almost 2020: Give Yourself Permission to Pursue Your Desired Future

The end of the year – and in this case the beginning of a new decade – is a great time to take stock of where you have been and where you want to go!

Milestones in time create the ideal moments to clear the challenges of the past, celebrate our wonderful memories and launch our dreams. Listen to your internal compass. Maybe you have been feeling stuck or have an internal knowing that it is time to do something different. If so, it is time to give yourself permission to consciously create and pursue the future you truly desire.

One of the first lessons we cover in F * School is giving ourselves permission to do whatever we truly want to experience, try or pursue on the path to our preferred future – the future we truly desire.

I have noticed the need to “give permission” in both individuals and in organizations, so I created a lesson to address this need. Many people tend to keep themselves mentally stuck or wait for someone else to give them permission to move forward with an idea, project or vacation (Yes-sometimes leaders really struggle with taking time off to recharge and renew).

I have been guilty of choosing to stay stuck at times. My amazing executive coach, Elise Auxier, pointed this out to me as I transitioned from my job to my business. Instead of waiting for some external person or force to give me permission to leave a long-time career that was no longer serving me, I had to take ownership of my life and do it myself. It took a series of bold, baby steps. And, it took a lot of support. Ultimately, I had to be the one to take action. I gave myself permission every step of the way. Was it always easy? No. Has it been totally worth it? Yes!

The process of giving yourself permission to move forward with your dreams and desires can be especially important if you are going through a time of change or transformation. I used the Permission Slip several times to help with my midlife metamorphosis. It took me a year to leave the place I had been at for twenty-five years. As a mentioned earlier, it was a process of bold, baby steps. It has taken some time; however, I am finally emerging as the person I have always wanted to truly become.

Give yourself permission to take steps forward, no matter how big or small, to experience your dreams and desires. Don’t choose to pursue what I call the Purposeless Future.

The Purposeless Future

Too many people keep their desires inside of them.  They pursue what I call the Purposeless Future. This is the future that “just happens” because people opt to stay on the hamster wheel of life rather than taking the time to develop and pursue a purposeful future that they truly desire.

The future is not a straight path forward.  Rather, there are many alternative futures. In the world of strategic foresight (futuring), we us a tool called the Cone of Possibilities to help people understand this concept.  In the cone, there are multiple futures that can be described as:

  • Preferred:  The desired future we choose to pursue
  • Possible:  The wide range of events and possibilities over the course of time
  • Plausible:  Futures that are possible but unlikely
  • Probable:  Events and future scenarios that are likely to happen
  • Purposeless:  The future that occurs without conscious intention

There are also two key assumptions about the future:

  1. There are multiple futures.  It is important to clarify your preferred future through a visioning process; however, you must also be willing to change course when necessary.  Remember, life is not simply about achieving in the future — it is also about enjoying the present. 
  2. You influence the future through your true intent.  Once you establish your preferred future, you must develop the beliefs, behaviors, mindset and actions to make it happen.  If you do not truly believe in your preferred future, you will not consciously or subconsciously pursue it with true intent.

The Power of Honest Intentions

Our honest intentions are naturally supported by our beliefs and actions; therefore, all true intent is realized.  Intentions become the outcome — they become your future. Your intentions serve as motivation and the source of actions and behaviors. Setting and pursuing false intentions can lead to a lack of interest and motivation, which typically ends in feelings of failure and self-doubt. Feelings of failure and self-doubt can seriously erode confidence and our sense of self-empowerment and success. Be genuine about your desired future and your intent to pursue it.  If you honestly and consciously establish your true intentions, your beliefs, behaviors and mindset will align to create the outcome.  

Dealing with Wild Cards

Sometimes, we experience Wild Cards — those unpredictable, unexpected and unforeseen happenings that can impact our present and future.  We might lose a job or have an unexpected health emergency. We might inherit a large sum of money or land a big client.

Wild Cards are a part of life, and we have to learn to deal with what comes our way. 

Life is Not a Straight Line

There is no straight line to any future. As leaders of our own lives, it is important to take risks, learn from the challenges and celebrate the successes. Our preferred futures may ultimately look and feel a little different than we imagined; however, they may be even better than what our minds are capable of creating!

The Pace of Change

Wild Cards are unpredictable, unexpected and unforeseen happenings that we must deal with throughout the course of our lives; however, we are also living in a time of unprecedented change.  Not only is technology evolving faster than ever – life is too.  We are living longer and experiencing careers and families differently than ever before.  We also feel like we need to always be “on” as we are constantly bombarded with the demands of life.  This is especially true for people who are creating new ways of living and working.

All of this change can feel overwhelming and cause stress that undermines your potential.  Don’t give into the hype! Change will continue to happen. The intention here is to create the positive change, and preferred future, that works best for you and your life. So, get give yourself permission to pursue your desired future!

WIN with Action!

Giving yourself permission to pursue your dream future is not about striving, working hard or struggling to make it happen.  It is about the freedom to make decisions that work best for you. This exercise is about exploring how you personally WIN, and by WIN I mean let the process feel —

W = Wild = Free, Fulfilling and Fun!  

You have the freedom to choose how to spend your life. Put your ego, external validation and the thoughts of others aside so you can be totally free and honest with yourself.   Let your transformation be guided by self-honesty, personal fulfillment joy and fun!  

I = Inspired = Explore with Energy and Excitement! 

Anytime is a great time to explore new possibilities, so pursue your desired future in a way that gives you energy and feels exciting!  If you are feeling a bit stuck, start asking yourself some questions designed to increase your self-awareness:

  • Where does your energy naturally flow? 
  • What saps your energy?
  • What do you want to let go of doing, feeling or thinking?
  • What have you always wanted to do but have not yet tried?

This should be a process of experimenting and exploring.  Remember, your true intentions will naturally lead to inspired actions. 

N = Natural= Totally You.  

Have you ever tried on a piece of clothing, looked in the mirror and thought, “Wow!  This looks amazing!” It fit perfectly and the color made your face light up naturally.  That is what the “N” in WIN should feel and be like. Write, do and explore what feels totally and completely like you.  What comes to you without thinking about it? What have you been covering up or avoiding that is begging to be set free? What comes to you naturally — without effort or striving?  What makes you feel alive and excited — taps into your intuition (that inner wisdom we all possess) and aligns with your soul?

It’s Time to WIN!

Download and complete the Permission Slip below.  Take the time to give yourself permission to consciously create your future and experience your life by taking big leaps or bold, baby steps. Do whatever you need to do to give yourself permission to WIN and pursue your desired future!

Use extra Permission Slips if you need them. After you finish giving yourself permission to take consciously create your future by intentionally taking action, share your thoughts and ideas in the comment section below!  What steps did you decide to take? How did it feel? Whatever you want to share is absolutely welcome!

I look forward to hearing what you gave yourself permission to do, feel and experience to make your desired future a reality!

-Dr. Connie

112 – Cultivating a Futurist Mindset with Connie Reimers-Hild – Jake A Carlson

Strategic foresight is a mix of mindset and methodology.  We are creating our futures in the present moment.  What are you doing to pursue the future you want to experience?  How can you cultivate a Futurist Mindset? And, why is this approach to life so important?

According to Jake, a few of the top takeaways from our episode focused on cultivating a futurist mindset include: 

Futurists help leaders and people better understand the future, and being a Futurist is a real thing!  Universities have teaching courses, degrees and certifications in strategic foresight (my certificate is from the University of Houston).

We create our future in the present moment.

Achieving your desired future is possible.   How?  You must combine methodology with mindset.  One of the first steps includes knowing what preferred future you want to achieve and experience.  You can do this by creating a Vivid Visual Vision, which blends fun with the future: 

In 3-5 years out what do you want to do and experience?

  • Use Crayons, Paints, any medium to make the vision as vivid as possible – make it your own whole brain, whole soul process
  • Get below the surface and become very self-aware and honest about your future
  • Proactively pause and find out what you want – step away from the demand and create a new model – become mindful
Listen to this episode of the Modern Leadership Podcast with Jake Carlson to learn more! Click on the link below and enjoy the show!

Source: 112 – Cultivating a Futurist Mindset with Connie Reimers-Hild – Jake A Carlson

Want to discover your leadership superpower?  Take Jake’s online assessment by going to his website JakeCarlson.com – it is a fun exercise that all leaders can use!

Join Me Today on 1110 KFAB Radio!

Status Update: I will be on from 3:30 PM to 4:30 PM today, and Clint will be taking callers!

In addition to the topics I listed in the original blog post below, we will be discussing the 3 Mega-Trends I recently wrote about and presented on: 1) The Rise of the #GigEconomy, 2) Living with Purpose and Meaning and the 3) Decentralized Global Marketplace.

Plan on calling in with your questions!

Looking forward to hearing from you all!
-Dr. Connie

I am counting down the hours to my interview with Clint Bellows this afternoon on 1110 KFAB (www.kfab.com). I will be in the studio at 2:30 PM.

Our conversation will focus on creating your desired future in the current economy. We will touch on the power of your beliefs and talk about how your brain impacts finances, the future and of course fun!

Let me know if you have any questions you want me to answer on the air. Clint talked about taking live calls. I would love to hear from you if he opens the phone lines!

Going Wild!
Connie

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Megatrend 3: Decentralized Global Marketplace

Distance learning is in the age of the “Empowered Consumer-Learner” who has a buffet of educational choices.   The empowered consumer-learner decides what educational experiences and knowledge they need, when they need it and how they want to experience it.  The wide-array of non-credit and for credit choices makes for a very competitive marketplace but also a field of new opportunities.

Venture capitalists continue to invest in distance education because of the return on investment potential.  Big Data is being used to develop marketing campaigns, study human behaviors and determine patterns.  It is also being used to examine various areas of teaching and learning.  Data can help create bite-sized, customized courses and programs that are both personalized and interactive (Koller, 2012). Technology enables the delivery of information and education anytime, anywhere and from anyone in a way that makes sense to the learner while adding value to their lives.

It’s no longer necessary for people to enroll in college, formal classes or workshops to learn.  They are learning what they want to know from their networks and resources they find on the Web, through Apps or in iTunes.  People will increasingly be able to create and print their ideas from wherever they choose with 3D printing.  Technology, combined with the continued growth of self-expression and meaning, will continue to change education at a rapid pace.

Value is becoming less about college credit and more about meaningful outcomes and self-expression through enhanced skills and evolving abilities.  The world is fast-becoming an “Add to Cart” society for anything and everything, including educational experiences.  Individuals are creating local, national and global communities of meaning and change that are self-selected and self-formed.  Many of these same individuals are transforming distance learning in new and innovative ways.  Technology, combined with the need for meaning, self-expression and self-actualization, has created an increasingly decentralized marketplace.

People are choosing how to meet virtually, when, where and whether-or-not to meet face-to-face and connecting over common causes.  Education, along with so many other areas of life, is becoming increasingly decentralized.  Savvy consumers seek and create the value they crave to transform their lives.   They are choosing whether or not they want a badge, certificate, credit hour or degree, and their demands are shaping the marketplace and future trends.  The Empowered Consumer-Learner wants a unique experience that adds value to their life.  Future-focused leaders who ask and answer not, “What is the lifetime value of a customer?” but rather, “What value can we add to a lifetime?” will be in a better position to compete in the increasingly decentralized marketplace.

Innovation Retreat: New Ideas and New Dollars on April 29!
As educators, what is the value we can add to a lifetime?

Starting the New Year with True Intentions!

 

It’s the perfect day for writing.  The snow is falling and the new year is full of positive energy and gratitude!

If you are contemplating your resolutions or goals for 2014, my updated SMARTER Intentions and Authentic Goals Coaching Guide may be of use.  It is designed to help get you started or to help you refine what you may have already established.

Intentions influence our actions and behaviors.  If intentions are established with awareness, truth, and meaning, they help us experience a life filled with passion and personal fulfillment. Lack of understanding around our true intentions often causes frustration and confusion, which is one reason people oftentimes do not achieve their goals.  Many goals are written; however, they are not established with honest intent.  It’s time to get brutally honest about your true intentions so you can achieve authentic goals.

Intentions have the power to strengthen your Inner Leader and help you move forward in a meaningful way as long as they represent what you truly want to accomplish and experience.  Honest intentions, based on personal fulfillment and purpose, can also keep you motivated and focused while measuring progress and celebrating success.

What we truly intend will happen, so I use this coaching guide to encourage my clients to create SMARTER Intention Statements that support their personal vision.  So, what exactly are SMARTER Intentions?  They are statements designed to help you achieve your vision while holding your accountable and having some fun along the way because they are Super Cool, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time Bound, Evolved, and Rewarded.

The SMARTER Intentions and Authentic Goals coaching guide can easily be downloaded via the web by going to the University of Nebraska Extension Kimmel Education and Research Center Digital Commons site.  Simply click on: SMARTER Intentions and Authentic Goals.

Go Wild with your SMARTER Intentions and have a VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR!

-Dr. Connie

 Happy New Year

Self-Care and Farmers’ Markets?

Self-care is essential to strengthening your Inner Leader.  Good nutrition and exercise also positively contribute to self-leadership and personal innovation. 

For a list of Farmers’ Markets and Community Supported Agriculture (CSA) organizations in Nebraska visit:


Eating nutritious, fresh food is a great way to invest in and take care of your creative spirit and your Inner Leader!  Best of all, while you are investing in yourself you are also  supporting your local economy.

Go Wild and Enjoy!
-Dr. Connie

Information on farmers’ markets in our area:

Nebraska City’s Farmers’ Market begins on Thursday, May 31st.  This awesome event will be held every Thursday through August 30th.  

This year will feature 10 vendors each week, providing a variety of fresh and homemade items.

2012 Farmers’ Market Vendors:

Gress Produce
Razee Acres
Sunderman Produce
Robert & Hollie Feickert & Sons
The Garden of Ellen
Morelock Produce
Grannys Baubles & the Plant Lady
Prairie View Acres
High Prairie Farm
Crooke/Liesemeyer Farm



The Syracuse Farmers’ Market is held every Saturday morning from the 1st Saturday of June until the last Saturday of August. 

Directions:
From HWY 2, take the Syracuse exit and go south on HWY 50 for approximately 3/4 mile to 11th Street. The Farmers Market is on the southwest corner of 11th and HYW 50.

For more information on either Farmers Market, visit NebraskaCity.com






2012 Big Red Camp for Entrepreneurs!

2012 Big Red Camp for Entrepreneurship:  
New Shortened Schedule & New Price!

To accommodate the busy summer schedules, the University of Nebraska-Lincoln  2012 Big Red Camp for Entrepreneurship has been shortened.  It will now begin Sunday June 10 and run till Thursday morning, June 14.  With the shortened camp the cost will also decrease to $100 per camper, after completion of a brief scholarship application,  available at http://4h.unl.edu/web/4hcamps/campfinance.  Scholarship applications are to be completed and included with the online camp registration, http://bigredcamps.unl.edu by May 15th.  Space is limited and will fill on a first-come basis.
The Biggggg Red Camp for Entrepreneurship is a residential camp with campers staying and eating on campus, enjoying evening group activities such as touring the Memorial Stadium and going to Champions Fun Center.  During the day, campers will attend sessions and will gain business skills to help drive their business ideas into action.  Camp activities include sessions with UNL faculty and business professionals, along with a variety of group activities, including visiting area businesses, working on creative and innovative ideas and exploring business concepts, just to name a few.  Campers will also focus on creating or fine-tuning their own business ideas to really make them grow! 
Plan now to attend the Big Red Camp and build your entrepreneurial skills.  Apply online at http://bigredcamps.unl.edu.  Remember to submit your scholarship application along with your registration.  
Questions about the camp?  Contact Marilyn Schlake, Extension Educator & Camp Director, 402-472-4138 or mschlake1@unl.edu or Adam Kruger at akruger@huskers.unl.edu
  
Marilyn Schlake, Extension Educator
University of Nebraska-Lincoln Extension
Department of Agricultural Economics
103D Miller Hall
Lincoln, NE  68583-0711
P:  402.472.4138/800.382.2851
F: 402.472.0688

Manuscript on Coaching for Personal Innovation Submitted!

Phew!!  I just submitted a manuscript to the 2012 Distance Learning Administration Conference.  With only 1 month to write this original article….well, let’s just say I am glad 2012 is a leap year!


Here’s the Abstract:
Coaching is emerging as a tool that can be used to achieve sustainable personal and organizational innovation, and distance education technologies have made coaching more accessible, affordable and available.  Distance learning professionals are in a unique position to help technology-based coaching evolve in an effective and sustainable manner.  The expertise and experience of distance learning professionals has the potential to advance the interrelationships between teaching, learning and coaching in an effort to help individuals and organizations achieve sustainable and meaningful innovation.  A coaching case study utilizing the Inner Leader Coaching Ecosystem is presented as a tool to begin the conversation about ways in which the distance learning community can strengthen and expand technology-based coaching. 

The Four Phases of the Inner Leader Coaching Ecosystem (ICE)

Coaching for Personal Innovation: The Role of Intuition

Dear Friends & Readers:
I submitted my research paper to the International Coach Academy for the partial fulfillment of their Certified Professional Coach Program.  This research paper was my last graduation requirement!!  The full paper is available as a downloadable pdf. Simply visit Kimmel’s Digital Commons site. I hope you sincerely enjoy and benefit from this information!  

Go Wild!
Dr. Connie


Me attempting to capture a Zen moment!  🙂
Coaching for Personal Innovation:  The Role of Intuition

Innovation has become essential to survival and success in the 21st Century. Globalization combined with the rapid rate of change and explosive population growth have created a need for entrepreneurial activity, both inside and outside of new venture creation, that leads to continuous innovation while considering social and environmental impacts. Entrepreneurs are needed to establish new ventures and to employ others while developing new products, services and solutions. Entrepreneurial individuals, who may or may not start a business, are needed because they are innovators who behave or act in a proactive manner and move organizations forward.
Many different structures, policies and tools are being used to strengthen innovation within organizations; however, innovative behavior ultimately relies on individuals. Research (Reimers-Hild, 2005) has shown that motivation through personal fulfillment influences characteristics associated with the entrepreneurial personality. The complexity of motivation, entrepreneurial behavior and personal innovation suggests there is a need to explore these areas in greater detail. This paper proposes 1) intuition is a key element related to personal fulfillment and transformation; 2) intuition has the potential to influence entrepreneurial behavior and personal innovation; and, 3) coaching is a key tool in the development of intuition and personal innovation.

To download the full research paper, please go to: http://digitalcommons.unl.edu/kimmelfacpub/17/

Coaching Power Tool: Success vs. Failure

My latest Coaching Power Tool:  Success vs Failure is ready for use by coaches or people interested in self-coaching!  It can be downloaded as a pdf via the University’s Kimmel Education and Research Center’s Digital Commons site (http://digitalcommons.unl.edu/kimmelfacpub/15/).  To give you a little glimpse of this power tool, I have included a snippet below:

Thirty spokes converge upon a single hub;
It is on the hole in the center that the use of the cart hinges.
We make a vessel from a lump of clay;
It is the empty space within the vessel that makes it useful.
We make doors and windows for a room;
But it is these empty spaces that make the room livable.
Thus, while the tangible has advantages,
It is the intangible that makes it useful.
Lao Tzu
Tao Teh Ching (p. 23)
Part of personal leadership and innovation is self-discovery, which requires introspection and the ability to see the unseen.  As the reading from Lao Tzu’s Tao Teh Ching illustrates, sometimes it is necessary to consider a different perspective.  We have to shift our thinking to see the importance of all parts of a wheel, cart, vessel or a room.  Sometimes, it is the unobvious that may be the most important.  It is important for us to challenge our thinking and traditional thought to redefine success, failure and our ability to take risks.
For example, many of us may marvel at the colors of a beautiful vase while it is the empty space on the inside that provides functionality.  We must further consider that the outside and inside are both required give the vase value and purpose.  Sometimes it is what we do not immediately see or experience that gives life value and purpose.  We must search for purpose and meaning in order to begin to understand how we perceive success and failure.  Napoleon Hill’s research (p. 31), demonstrates the relationship between accomplishment and purpose:
“Purpose is the touchstone of any accomplishment, large or small.  A strong man can be defeated by a child who has a purpose.  Shift your habits of thinking about the significance of your task and you can often accomplish the seemingly impossible.”
Napoleon Hill,
Think & Grow Rich Action Pack(p. 31)
Increasing our awareness of success and failure requires us to explore our perception of both.  One of the first steps in the process of personal innovation is discovering and defining success and failure from a holistic perspective on your own terms.