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Shop Small this Cyber Monday

One way to shop small this Cyber Monday is to support authors and artists.  Online sales are incredibly important to this group of individuals.  I know because I am one of them.   We are entrepreneurs and small business owners working to support ourselves and our families by adding value to the lives of others.

Purchase Go Wild with Confidence! (available in both paperback and Kindle) via Amazon today (for yourself or as a gift) by clicking on:

Make sure to search Amazon for other favorite artists and authors as well.  Or, simply go to their web sites and buy directly from these talented individuals!

Give the Gift of Going Wild this Christmas!

-Dr. Connie

Strengthen your Inner Leader and live your best life with purpose, passion, and fun!
Strengthen your Inner Leader and live your best life with purpose, passion, and fun!

The Spirituality of Innovation with WasteCap Nebraska!

Join me for a Spirituality of Innovation workshop at WasteCap Nebraska’s 2013 Sustainability Summit on Wednesday, November 6.

The biological, social and spiritual worlds are all greatly intertwined.  As leaders, we can use this information to create a culture of sustainable innovation for others and ourselves.

One of the keys of tapping into the Spirituality of Innovation is self-confidence.  Self-confident individuals filled with passion and purpose are the most creative and innovative people. They have strong Inner Leaders and the confidence it takes to lead sustainability and innovation.

You will leave this session with:

-A better understanding of your Inner Leader

-10 powerful, yet practical, confidence boosters that you can use for yourself and with others

-Inspired action-steps that are doable, enjoyable and fulfilling

Before you can successfully lead innovation, including efforts designed to strengthen environmental sustainability and social responsibility, you must first lead yourself. So, join me on November 6 and invest in yourself and your self-confidence.

Get all the details at

Go Wild with the Spirituality of Innovation!!

-Dr. Connie

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Questions for The Mighty 1290 Radio Interview

I am preparing for my interview with Clint Bellows on Omaha’s hit new talk radio station, The Mighty 1290 KOIL. If you go to their web page,, you can click on the LISTEN LIVE tab and hear the interview.

Clint read my new book, Go Wild with Confidence!, and asked me to talk about coaching, confidence and leadership with a special focus on how these issues impact the United States.

I will be on at about noon (Central) on Sunday, February 17. That’s only 13 hours away from now!

So, what are some of your thoughts?

What are some of your thoughts about coaching?

How do confidence and leadership impact the United States?

I would love to hear from you before I go on the air!

Go Wild!
-Dr. Connie

Why Invest in Your Self-Confidence?

Innovation always begins with people.  Self-confident individuals filled with passion, purpose and confidence are the most creative and innovative individuals.  They have strong Inner Leaders and the confidence it takes to lead personal, organizational and community change and innovation.  Growing individual confidence and the confidence of others are key factors associated with great leadership. Before you can successfully lead others, you must first lead yourself.  So, invest in yourself.  Focus on developing your Inner Leader by strengthening your confidence and living the life you want for yourself!
Strengthen your Inner Leader by investing time and resources in your self-confidence.  There are a number of confidence building tools, and you have to find and use the tools that best serve you.  As a Certified Professional Coach I find the issue my clients struggle with most is confidence.  From my research and experience, I have developed Dr. Connie’s Top 10 Confidence Boosters.  The Top 10 will be published tomorrow, so stay tuned!  Get ready to show off your tailfeathers!

My latest research paper!

Below is the introduction to my latest research paper, “Coaching for Personal Innovation:  The Role of Intuition.”  I am publishing this paper as the last requirement for the International Coach Federation’s Certified Professional Coach Program.  I am going to graduate in just a couple of months!  Yippee!!  Time to celebrate!

Innovation has become essential to survival and success in the 21st Century.  Globalization combined with the rapid rate of change and explosive population growth have created a need for entrepreneurial activity, both inside and outside of new venture creation, that leads to continuous innovation while considering social and environmental impacts. 
Entrepreneurs are needed to establish new ventures and to employ others while developing new products, services and solutions.  Entrepreneurial individuals, who may or may not start a business, are needed because they are innovators who behave or act in a proactive manner and move organizations forward. 
Many different structures, policies and tools are being used to strengthen innovation within organizations; however, innovative behavior ultimately relies on individuals.  How do individuals become more innovative?  How can they be more entrepreneurial? 
Research (Reimers-Hild, 2005) has shown that individuals who possess a greater sense of motivation through personal fulfillment, are more likely to achieve sustainable personal innovation and change, and a key element related to personal fulfillment is intuition.  The purpose of this paper is to present and explore the relationships between intuition, personal innovation and coaching.  Two specific questions will be explored, including 1) how does coaching influence intuition?  And, 2) what is the role of intuition in the process of personal change and innovation?

Coaching Power Tool: Success vs. Failure

My latest Coaching Power Tool:  Success vs Failure is ready for use by coaches or people interested in self-coaching!  It can be downloaded as a pdf via the University’s Kimmel Education and Research Center’s Digital Commons site (  To give you a little glimpse of this power tool, I have included a snippet below:

Thirty spokes converge upon a single hub;
It is on the hole in the center that the use of the cart hinges.
We make a vessel from a lump of clay;
It is the empty space within the vessel that makes it useful.
We make doors and windows for a room;
But it is these empty spaces that make the room livable.
Thus, while the tangible has advantages,
It is the intangible that makes it useful.
Lao Tzu
Tao Teh Ching (p. 23)
Part of personal leadership and innovation is self-discovery, which requires introspection and the ability to see the unseen.  As the reading from Lao Tzu’s Tao Teh Ching illustrates, sometimes it is necessary to consider a different perspective.  We have to shift our thinking to see the importance of all parts of a wheel, cart, vessel or a room.  Sometimes, it is the unobvious that may be the most important.  It is important for us to challenge our thinking and traditional thought to redefine success, failure and our ability to take risks.
For example, many of us may marvel at the colors of a beautiful vase while it is the empty space on the inside that provides functionality.  We must further consider that the outside and inside are both required give the vase value and purpose.  Sometimes it is what we do not immediately see or experience that gives life value and purpose.  We must search for purpose and meaning in order to begin to understand how we perceive success and failure.  Napoleon Hill’s research (p. 31), demonstrates the relationship between accomplishment and purpose:
“Purpose is the touchstone of any accomplishment, large or small.  A strong man can be defeated by a child who has a purpose.  Shift your habits of thinking about the significance of your task and you can often accomplish the seemingly impossible.”
Napoleon Hill,
Think & Grow Rich Action Pack(p. 31)
Increasing our awareness of success and failure requires us to explore our perception of both.  One of the first steps in the process of personal innovation is discovering and defining success and failure from a holistic perspective on your own terms.

Power Listening by Dr. Connie

Listening is not as simple as it seems.  As a coach, I get paid to listen to people-and I mean really listen.  I get paid to listen because people value powerful listening.  By listening to my clients, I can help them discover their true intentions, achieve their goals and reach new heights in the personal and professional lives.   Powerful listening creates tremendous value. 

How many times have you suggested a new idea only to have people shoot it down…then someone else makes the same suggestion a few minutes, days, months later and people think it is great?   This is a very common occurrence. 
Some people do take the ideas of others and claim them as their own; however, one of the main causes of “idea stealing” is the fact that people don’t really listen to each other.  They may slightly be paying attention and hear bits and pieces of your idea (so they think it was their idea later) but they were really focused on something else.  Maybe it was their own thoughts on the subject at hand, their child’s basketball game, the time or even what they wanted to have for lunch.  People have a lot going on in their brains and rarely take time to focus on the moment. 
Great leaders are great listeners.  They focus on both what is being said and what is not being said-they can read in between the lines and spot a great idea.  Further, they are supportive of great ideas and realize the power in giving credit where credit is due.   Powerful listening instills self-confidence and self-esteem in others and makes them feel valued. 
As a leader, you can develop your power listening skills by:
1)     Hear what is being said:  Make sure you can physically hear the person speaking, especially if there is background noise or if you are using technology.
2)     Paraphrasing:  Summarize the information being shared with you and repeat it back to the individual who said it.  They have a chance to hear your interpretation of the message.  You can work together and make sure you are both on the same page.
3)     Asking Questions:  Clarify and gather more information by asking people questions.  Open-ended questions are extremely powerful.  Begin your questions with “what” and “how.”  Avoid using “why.”   Using the word “why” implies judgment and puts people in defense mode.  Good listeners are non-judgmental.  They are not judging the person.  They are listening and working hard to understand both what is being said and what is not being said. 
4)     Use Intuition: Leaders should use their “gut instincts” or intuition to sense what is not being said.  Great leaders have powerful intuitive skills.  Use your intuition and strengthen your power listening!
5)     Watch Body Language:  This is important for both the listener and the speaker.  When you are listening to another individual, don’t check your e-mail or watch.  Don’t answer your phone or do other things that distract from the conversation.  Focus on the other person.  Make eye contact (without staring them down!) and make them feel valuable.  Time is the most valuable resource we all have, so make conversation time count!
6)     Pause:  Give people additional space after you think they are done speaking. If you wait a few seconds before speaking, people usually provide you with additional thoughts and information because they have had some time to think and expand on their ideas.  This also prevents you from interrupting while helping people realize that you are truly listening and not waiting for them to finish so you can interject your thoughts.
7)     The 80/20 Rule:  According to the International Coach Academy (2002), great coaches listen 80% of the time and talk or ask questions 20% of the time.  This applies to leaders as well.  If you want to become a powerful listener, make sure you are in a position of active listening the majority of the time.  You will increase your understanding, make others feel valued and learn more than you ever imagined! 
“The primary purpose of listening…is to truly understand the other person’s point of view, how they think and feel and how they ‘move through the world.’ ”
                                                      (Zeus & Skiffington, 2000)


International Coach Academy. (2002).  Module 131:  Powerful Listening. 
Zeus, P. & Skiffington, S.  (2000).  The Complete Guide to Coaching at Work.  McGraw-Hill

Creating Awareness

Creating awareness is one of the most important things coaches can do for their clients; however, clients have to be in a place where they want to be aware.  They must be open to personal change and innovation.  In my work, I define this as developing a client’s Inner Leader.
What in the world does this mean?  Clients must be in a place where they want to create sustainable change in their lives.  This is a challenge for most of us.  Have you ever tried to break a bad habit or take on new habits that are good for you?  How well did trying work? 
One of the most valuable lessons I learned from one of my peer coaches at International Coach Academy (ICA) is that we must quit trying and actually get into a place of action.  When we are ready for action, coaches can help us create clarity around what we truly want to achieve and help us develop structures to accomplish our goals. 
A first step towards creating awareness is realizing what is working in our lives and what is not.  We have to be very honest during this process, which is quite an emotional journey.  I have coached individuals through the awareness process.  Most of the time, deep introspection leads to deep emotion.  Emotions range from excitement and joy to sadness and fear.  The process should be emotional.  If it is not, a new journey of self-awareness is not occurring. 
While developing my coaching awareness and coaching skills through ICA, I made a number of connections between my research and coaching abilities.  For example, the first of my 10 Pillars of Entrepreneurial Leadership and Innovation is Know Thyself (self-awareness).  Great leaders tend to be very self-aware.  They know themselves well and are honest about their strengths, weaknesses and life goals.  A high sense of self-awareness helps leaders focus with passion and confidence. 
As a coach, I can heighten the awareness of my clients with a variety of coaching techniques and tools.  Techniques and tools include visualizations, meditations, and powerful questions.  Perhaps one or the most powerful techniques is help clients let go of the things in their life that are no longer working for them.  It is essential for clients to have self-forgiveness along their self-awareness journey.  Letting go helps us make room for the future we truly want create and experience.  Letting go helps us move towards the future.
It is a wonderful process of self-discovery and personal innovation designed to set the stage for new experiences and a more fulfilling life!
Lead Your Live with Passion!
-Dr. Connie

My Latest Adventure: The International Coach Academy (ICA)

In an effort to strengthen my leadership and innovation coaching services, I registered for the Certified Professional Coach Program (CPCP) through the International Coach Academy (ICA).  I have already participated in two telecourses, and I really enjoyed them.  I selected this program for the following reasons:

1.  Flexibility:  I can take classes whenever and wherever…super cool educational model!

2.  Customization:  I get to customize my program with the content I want to use with my clients (and already use in my firm).  I am already a coach, so this is a huge advantage!

3.  International Audience:  ICA has students enrolled from around the world.  I totally enjoy learning from people from around the world.  What a rich experience this is going to be!!

My goal is to finish the program in about 1 year…..follow and join me on my journey!

Dr. Connie